Episode 189: Conquering Life with Connection Codes with James and Tanja Hanson
Summary
As a landlord, especially someone who is learning and fumbling through it, the mistakes and stress-levels can be high. My guests today are certified experts in their field, and their insight into Connection Codes is taking off across the globe. Today you’ll learn about the Connection Code Wheel and how it all works when you are talking with your partner, your colleagues, your neighbors and beyond! Join James & Tanja Hanson as we unlock the simplicity and freedom with Connection Codes.
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This Week’s Blog Post:
Welcome to My Life as a Landlord. I’m Dr. Jen, and in this episode I shared a conversation that had nothing to do with real estate and everything to do with being human and being good relationship stewards. I talked about a recent coffee with a dear friend where I felt peace, felt present, and experienced something that was freeing. As landlords and as people, we are often searching for tools, and this episode focused on connection, emotion, and language.
Discovering Connection Codes
In this episode, I sat down with my good friends James and Tanja Hanson to talk about Connection Codes. They explained that Connection Codes are the language and tools that return us to our original programming, how we were made, and how we were as kids. Over time, we shut down emotion, become inauthentic, and focus on task instead of connection. This language brings us back to expressing what’s happening inside of us and being present with one another in real relationship.
The Core Emotion Wheel
We spent time talking about the Core Emotion Wheel and how it works. The wheel includes anger, joy, fear, hurt, sad, lonely, guilt, and shame. The purpose is to process emotion by talking about it with someone who is safe. The simplicity of the wheel allows people to do it quickly, sometimes in just a few minutes, and the result is lightness, peace, and presence. Processing emotion helps get it out of the body and keeps things flowing instead of staying stuck.
Being Heard Without Fixing
One of the most powerful parts of this conversation was learning about listening without fixing. The audible “ooh,” “wow,” or “I hear you” signals presence and tells the other person they are heard and not judged. The job of the listener is not to correct, defend, or fix, but simply to be present. Feeling heard de-escalates emotion and allows connection to happen, whether in marriage, family, business, or landlord-tenant relationships.
Why This Matters in Life and Landlording
We talked about how emotion shuts down cognition and how learning this language helps people move out of a flooded emotional state into a place where they can think and communicate. This applies to marriage, parenting, teaching, business, and landlording. When people feel heard, productivity rises, relationships deepen, and conflict decreases. At the core of all of this are two simple questions: am I enough for you, and will you be there for me. Connection Codes help us live out yes to both.